The Sea Inside is where the lightbulb is.
Relationship Mentoring
Suffering is inevitable and universal. It is part of being human. But how we respond to our pain varies greatly from one person to another. Some of us learn to recognise and feel our emotions and take responsibility for them. Others were never shown how. We learned instead to avoid, ignore, or repress our feelings, and to blame ourselves or others for what we experience.
From a young age, many of us were taught, directly or indirectly, to disconnect from our true responses. When it didn’t feel safe to express who we were, we pushed our emotions deep inside and behaved in the ways that ensured approval, acceptance, or love.
As adults, we often continue these patterns, living more from our heads than from our hearts. We sense that something isn’t quite ours — that our reactions don’t reflect who we truly are — and we look outside ourselves for the connection or peace we feel we’re missing.
Relationship Mentoring is an invitation to come home to yourself. It is a gentle process of unlearning the intergenerational patterns that shaped you and learning instead how to reparent yourself with care, compassion, and presence. As adults, everything we need to nurture ourselves is already within us.
We find our way back to ourselves by exploring our story with safety and support. In my work as a Relationship Mentor, I offer a warm, compassionate, non-judgmental holding space where you can meet your emotions at your own pace. I walk alongside you as you gently reconnect with the parts of yourself you had to hide.
As this authentic self emerges — the self you can come to know and love unconditionally — your relationships begin to transform. From this grounded place, you can meet others with more clarity, presence, and connection: your children, partners, friends, and colleagues.
“You are not too old and it is not too late to dive into your increasing depths where life calmly gives out its own secret.”
-Rilke
Parent Mentoring
All parenting begins with the self — the same self I speak about in the Relationship Mentoring section. When we become aware of our own feelings and emotions, and when we learn to relate to ourselves with unconditional love and acceptance, we are finally able to offer the same to our children. Awareness is the key.
When we are connected to our own heart and living from that place, we can parent from our heart - with love, respect, encouragement, patience, kindness, and compassion. It all starts with us. And it ends with us.
“Parents FIRST” is a profound mindset shift, but it is life-changing. Why? Because children learn not from what we say, but from who we are. They absorb our presence, our emotional tone, our behaviour, and the way we relate to ourselves and to the world. They learn by example.
Parent Mentoring helps parents identify the blocks that stand between them and a deeper relationship with themselves and their children. These blocks show up as defensive behaviours — the moments when we act in ways that leave us feeling guilty, ashamed, or confused afterwards. Beneath these reactions lie parts of ourselves that we had to hide in order to cope.
Similarly, when children display challenging or “defensive” behaviours, the task is not to correct the behaviour but to understand the unmet need beneath it. A child’s behaviour is not a deliberate attempt to make life difficult for us; it is an expression of something that is difficult for them.
I work with parents one-to-one, or with both parents together, to uncover these blocks and strengthen the heart connection within the family. I also offer group courses and workshops where parents can explore their story, share experiences, and learn from one another. This co-creational work is powerful, transformative, and deeply supportive.
This work also translates into organisational settings, where I support professionals in understanding their own responses, improving communication, and navigating difficult conversations with colleagues, employees, or clients. Many people feel unsure how to raise sensitive issues at work, and this approach provides the tools to do so with clarity and confidence.
Services Include
Relationship Mentoring for individuals and organisations
Parent Mentoring for individuals and couples
Emotional Wellbeing Workshops & Courses
Parenting Workshops & Courses
Organisational Wellbeing Workshops
Facilitating co-parenting negotiations for separated couples
Mindfulness for Children Courses
Mindfulness for Parents & Children Courses
“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love they bloom like flowers”
-Thich Nhat Hanh